Smiling woman standing in front of bamboo

We are all in a great Remembering. Of who we are. What we’ve lost. What we carry. And what we’re becoming.

Therapist, Grief-Tender, Group Facilitator

I’m Amanda Feaver (she/her), a licensed therapist with over 14 years of experience walking with people through life’s most tender thresholds—grief, trauma, and relationship changes.

I support individuals and couples who are navigating transition and transformation. Whether you’re grieving a loss, leaving a relationship, untangling a long-held story, or simply feeling the quiet ache of something that no longer fits, I help you make space for what’s ending and find the path toward what’s next.

My work weaves together the psychological, the spiritual, and the ecological.

My Approach

I offer:

  • Individual therapy for residents of Oregon and Washington

  • Couples therapy for those wanting to repair and reconnect with their partner, or wanting to leave the relationship with wisdom and kindness.

  • Trauma Integration for people who have not had the relief they’re hoping for from traditional talk therapy.

  • Groups and Gatherings for grief, for thresholds of change, for community.

  • Specialized support for grief, trauma reprocessing, and imagining forward

Grief is an initiatory experience that can lead us into new ways of being…and honoring grief becomes more powerful when it's done in relationship.

My clients describe me as grounded, warm, and intuitive. In group settings, I’m a skilled facilitator—able to hold strong containers for shared transformation. There’s a special kind of magic that happens in these spaces: when we gather in honesty, something sacred gets stirred.

Many people tell me that this work reshaped the trajectory of their lives. I don't take that lightly.

I live in Portland, Oregon, on Chinook land, where I tend a small regenerative forest garden and learn from the Earth about reciprocal relationship. I believe our healing and the Earth’s healing are inextricably interconnected, and that the work we do in our own lives will have vast impacts on the planet we live on and love.

If you're looking for a Portland-based therapist who offers grief and relational support, as well as group therapy or gatherings, or if you're curious about navigating grief and emerging into renewal, you're in the right place.

Threads of My Work

  • More About Me

    My work is rooted in trauma-informed care, relational presence, and depth-oriented healing—guided by the understanding that true change happens not just at the cognitive level, but in the nervous system, the body, and the soul.

    I am certified in:

    PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy)

    ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy)

    Death: My DeathDoulatraining with the End of Life Psychedelic Care program (EOLPC) was both centering and expansive. It provided me with a solid framework for presence with people and their communities as they navigate death. It also informs my ecological work with place and the grief of the Earth.

    Grief: I have been a student of grief for many years, working with clients, living with a planet in pain, and wading through the deaths of people close to me. I have been in awe of the marriage between death and renewal, how grief takes us to the underworld, how we can emerge with vitality. I learned about the practice and power of collective grief rituals through my studies with Francis Weller, Holly Truhlar, and Steffi Bednarek. I am committed to an ongoing relationship with the presence and movement of grief in our collective lives.

    Earth: In addition to these clinical frameworks, I am a member of the Climate Psychology Alliance and practice eco-therapy, integrating nature-based perspectives and accessing the wisdom of the Earth in our work together. We are Nature — the Earth is not a backdrop to our healing, but an active participant and guide. The cycles of the Earth, of life-death-renewal, offer a profound model for how we process change, loss, and emergence. Learning to listen to the land, and getting in touch with your own wild places, beyond productivity, can be a deeply regulating and transformational part of the therapeutic process.

  • Learning from the Earth: A Grounded Foundation for Practice

    As a human, I look to the Earth as a Mother and a Teacher.

    The Earth doesn’t rush healing. It knows the value of seasons—of growth, rest, decay, and renewal. It holds space for complexity: storms and stillness, fertility and fallowness, life and death in constant relationship. In this way, it models a kind of therapeutic wisdom: healing doesn’t always mean "feeling better"—sometimes it means walking a painful path towards becoming more whole, more in rhythm with self, more rooted in our lives.

    Just as ecosystems thrive on diversity and interconnection, I see my role as holding space for all parts of you—especially the ones that have been exiled, silenced, or covered over. The Earth teaches us that nothing is wasted. Even the hardest experiences can compost into insight, resilience, and self-trust.

    In this practice, I aim to meet each client with presence, patience, and deep respect for the unfolding process.

    Some books that have invited me closer to our Earth:

    Earth Grief -Harrod Buhner

    Re-Enchanting The World -Silvia Federici

    The Spell Of The Sensuous -David Abram

    Braiding Sweetgrass -Robin Wall Kimmerer

    Waking Up To The Dark -Clark Strand

  • The I Ching

    TheI Ching, or Book of Changes, is an ancient Chinese text and oracle system used for thousands of years to gain clarity, insight, and guidance. It’s not about predicting the future, but rather helping you better understand your present—your patterns, decisions, and deeper internal conflicts.

    I regularly consult the I Ching as part of my spiritual practice, and I am almost always surprised by what it has to say.

    In a session, we might consult the I Ching when you’re feeling stuck, facing a major decision, or sensing something deeper trying to emerge. Using a combination of symbolic imagery and ancient wisdom, the I Ching offers a mirror—it reflects where you are and how you might move forward with greater integrity, clarity, or flow.

    It can feel both practical and poetic—a conversation with something older and wiser, both in you and outside of you.

  • Reciprocity & Belonging

    We are living through a time when many cannot dependably find safety, food, or shelter. We are all inextricably interconnected, and so we are all feeling this harm more and more. Over time, I have learned that service and giving have a profound impact on both those who give and those who receive. Giving to the land, to our creature-kin, to other humans, is one way we can resist the political and social structures that harm while also practicing gratitude and reciprocity towards the Earth for sustaining Life.

    A portion of the income from my therapy practice is given to others who cannot access the resources they need. Because the United States’ policies and practices often terrorize and, directly or indirectly, prevent people from accessing food, medicine, and safety, the organizations that I focus on at this time are:

    World Central Kitchen provides meals globally to people who cannot access food due to war, humanitarian crises, and natural disasters.

    Doctors Without Borders provides medical care in conflict zones and areas that experience endemic diseases.

    Charity Water works to end the global water crisis, so that all people may have access to safe drinking water.

You are welcome here.

Whether you work with me individually, as a couple, or through a gathering or retreat, we’ll meet you where you are—with warmth, curiosity, and trust in your process.

You already have access to the wisdom you’re seeking—we just need to create the right space to hear it.

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